Confession: I wore white to my former best friend’s wedding.
Double confession: I was her maid of honor.
No, that’s not the reason why she’s my former best friend, though I could see why that might be the case. And what’s even funnier is I soon realized after I got married that she actually wore white to my wedding as well. I’m not sure if that’s because she thinks like me, or if she was doing it to get back at me for wearing white to her wedding, but here’s the thing: I didn’t care.
People like to make such a big deal out of little details that are all executed in the name of political correctness, but who really cares if your friend or someone in your wedding party wears a white dress, especially if you have an informal wedding with no color scheme and don’t tell them what to wear?
At the time, I was naive and stupid. That’s why I did it. I didn’t do it to be spiteful or rude. I honestly didn’t know that it was “non-PC” to wear white to a wedding. I was the only person in her wedding party, and I don’t even know if she wore white as the bride! (Although if she didn’t, that was probably hella confusing.)
But this post isn’t really about me wearing white to a wedding, even though that’s what the title would lead you to believe. This post is more of a rant on the ridiculousness of our society placing such a huge emphasis on the importance of political correctness. At the end of the day, I don’t think people should worry so much about offending other people. As a good friend of mine once said, “offense is a choice.” if someone decides to be offended by something you say or do, that’s on them. If they are mentally affected by something you say or do, it’s because they persuaded themselves in their mind that you wronged them in some way.
Don’t get me wrong. There are occasions where people should be offended. If you shouted “FATTY” to an overweight woman in a parking lot, she’d have every right to be mad at you, and other bystanders would probably get angry too. That’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about subtle practices that we’ve grown accustomed to doing (or not doing) overtime because society, somewhere down the line, decided to define them as “etiquette.”
Another wedding example would be not including your registry information with your invitations. Apparently telling people where you’re registered is politically incorrect and “rude.” But as a wedding guest, I want to know where you’re registered so I can get you a gift that you actually want or need! So why is it rude for you to let me know that? I guarantee I’m not the only person invited to your wedding who actually wants that information either, but not everyone will take the time to ask. And when you end up with 5 of the same crock pot and no gift receipts, what the hell are you supposed to do then?
This is one of those cases where I feel standard etiquette should be revised. It’s 2016 people. Quit trying to be so damn polite.